January 14, 2005

I'll Give You a Topic...

If your spouse had a drunken fling with a stranger who they would never see again, would you want to know?

Posted by Jennifer at January 14, 2005 09:00 AM


Hell, yeah. That's an instant relationship ender. Whether or not they'll ever hook up with the same person again they've shown that they will hook up with someone besides you.

Posted by: Jim at January 14, 2005 09:42 AM

What Jim said.

Posted by: Harvey at January 14, 2005 10:54 AM

Why "drunken"? Are you presuming that being drunk excuses it; therefore you shouldn't want to know, because it doesn't "mean" anything?

Posted by: Iam at January 14, 2005 04:12 PM

Iam, why a "stranger", then? It's a question. Answer it or don't.

Posted by: Jennifer at January 14, 2005 04:16 PM


Posted by: Boudicca at January 14, 2005 07:16 PM

Yeah, I'd want to know. It's worse when you don't then you feel like an idiot. Plus, as stated above, instant deal breaker. No goin' back, for me, on that one.

Posted by: Tammi at January 15, 2005 08:13 PM

I'd want to know but probably would already know.

Posted by: Jas at January 16, 2005 11:22 PM

No. Knowing it ruins the marriage. Not knowing can help preserve it.

I don't tell my wife the stories of my debaucherous youth, and she doesn't want to hear them. Why would we want to hear if we did something far worse?

On the other hand, can someone keep that secret for the rest of their lives? It is the sort of thing that does not get less painful with time.

So the answer has to be: In a perfect world where it would never come out, no. In the real world, tell me now, so I can jack-slap you and we can go to counseling and save the marriage.

Posted by: Hammertime at January 17, 2005 12:24 PM