November 07, 2003

Love is in the Air

Okay, kids, I know I don't post a whole lot of personal stuff on here, but I've been...inspired.

There is someone very sweet (charming, sexy, funny, intelligent, and did I mention sweet?) who I am very interested in. Say hello, everyone, because he reads this blog.

Potential Boyfriend seems like a good nickname.

PB lives in another state, and we met online...which isn't really new territory, is it? Jim said in his interview that he met his wife online. One of my readers met his girlfriend online. I have friends who have met people online. So I can deal with that...the blog thing makes it a little more interesting. But if Bacchus (of the ErosBlog--not work safe) can forage into this territory, I don't see why I can't. Right?

Right?

Here at Munuvia, we have an interblogger lovefest going on between Helen and Don. How serious that is offline, I don't know...but it's interesting to watch. :-)

Jezebel has gone to meet her long distance boy...will it be love at first sight?

Does love at first sight even exist?

I digress.

Back to PB...he didn't seem to think that meeting online was very common. So by golly, I want you people to comment and let me know your stories (good or bad)...or even just your opinions/advice on the subject.

(And if I don't get some comments, everyone is going to bed without supper. That or I'll never post anything personal again. It'll be stories about dead people morning, noon, and night.)

Posted by Jennifer at November 7, 2003 10:39 AM
Comments

Yup, Lovely Wife and I met over the internet. A very good friend of ours back in Buffalo met a girlfriend over the internet also. They dated for close to 5 years before breaking up recently.

Posted by: Jim at November 7, 2003 11:14 AM

I have been doing it for a number of years and have had several good relationships. My current girlfriend and I met online and I can honestly say that it has led to the best relationship that I have ever been involved it. Is this a long distance relationship? They can be tough. But I thought that Bill was married.

Posted by: Pete at November 7, 2003 11:30 AM

I have met three people online. One turned out to be almost the love of my life... sweet, charming, successful, wonderful... I was too intimidated and forced myself off his radar. Another was a complete and utter disaster... his picture was of a 100 pound smaller, much more hygenically-inclined person. The third was a lovely match online, not so lovely (as in everything diametrically opposed) in person. That was the visit that seemed like it would never ever end.
So one out of three... not a bad average.

Posted by: LeeAnn at November 7, 2003 12:11 PM

I have little experience with online relationships. By "little," I mean "very little", by which, of course, I mean "none." Still, I think that you should tell this Rico Suave that meeting someone blogging has entirely different connotations than meeting someone in the "Horny Greek Transvestite" chat room.
I do, however, have experience in the distance thing, and my advice is to just ignore the distance. You have nothing to lose, everything to gain, so hurry up and meet, and the rest will flow. He sounds like an especially great guy. Be careful-- I have a hunch that he's gay.

Posted by: J Dawg at November 7, 2003 01:26 PM

I met someone really wonderful online and had a great 4 months with him, till the other online honey he also had in the wings came to light. I am now going on 4 years of cohabitating with a wonderful guy I met in a normal fashion...at a bar. Give your PB a chance... two coworkers here are happily married to people they met on line - the one I met was a just a player!

Posted by: CJ at November 7, 2003 01:34 PM

Thanks, guys...(hurrah! new people)

Posted by: Jennifer at November 7, 2003 02:18 PM

My coworker meets guys on-line all the time. Most of them seem to be middle eastern guys looking for a third or fourth wife.

Posted by: Tuning Spork at November 7, 2003 04:24 PM

Oh, but as for me, I've never been face to face with anyone that I met on-line, though I do seem to recall talking on the phone to someone...

Posted by: Tuning Spork at November 7, 2003 04:26 PM

Nothing wrong with meeting people online, any more than there's something wrong with meeting them anywhere else. Heck, everybody is online these days, so you have to assume that decent people are online. You no longer have to be a lonely geek. (but it helps)

The only problem is the relatively high concentration of weirdos and the limited ability to avoid entanglements by spotting them before you tangle with them.

But meeting people? Good on ya, go for it. I'd only suggest you become *friends*, rather than romantic. Romance requires face-to-face. Anybody who tells you that physical attraction is an after-thought is a damned liar.

Having said all that....I DO live in another state and I certainly am charming, sexy, funny, and intelligent.
....but I'm also married. :)

Posted by: Jon Henke at November 7, 2003 06:29 PM

I do think that meeting someone blogging is different than meeting someone some other way online. At least you and they have a lot of archives to look at to learn about the person. Besides, if this person is as sweet, charming, sexy, funny, and intelligent as you seem to think, then he must be a pretty good catch.
I don't think that there is anything wrong with romance either, just be careful with him.
;-)

Posted by: Nathan at November 7, 2003 08:37 PM

What a cool topic to bring up! I think it's the wave of the future...

Posted by: Jay Solo at November 7, 2003 09:09 PM

My best friend met her husband in an online chat room. He was in Illinois, she here in Indiana. They've been married about 3 years now and have the cutest little baby boy and are planning on another. So, go for it.

Posted by: Susie at November 7, 2003 09:54 PM

I've met several people online, including one gentleman who seems to be a keeper. Just be careful, as you always would be. Among my "offline" friends are two happily married couples who met online. Distance can complicate things, but don't let it get in the way of love...

Posted by: Deb at November 7, 2003 11:14 PM

I've had one significant relationship with someone I met online and I met one of my best friends from online as well. Now, I'm dating a guy I met online.

The circumstances are a bit different for gay folks, but online does certainly offer a viable forum for finding dating opportunities.

Also-
My stylist is dating a guy she met from online.
Another friend of mine met his husband online.

There are tons of supportive examples!

There are also tons more examples of meeting people who don't fit. But isn't that the case in real-life, too?

Posted by: Trey Givens at November 8, 2003 12:11 AM

Yep... mark and met online and here's the proof - www.colewalker.com. 2 years and still going strong.

Posted by: Jennifer D at November 8, 2003 02:01 AM

It hinges on two things. 1) Meeting face-to-face and finding out if there's any chemistry there, and 2) verifying that he is who he says he is. Both of these are things you'd need to do with a guy you met at a party, or through an acquaintance. So I don't think it's that different.

Posted by: Little Miss Attila at November 8, 2003 03:10 AM

This response is wonderful...thank you, everyone.

(And Spork--I don't think he's Middle Eastern or married, but appreciate the *cough* concern.)

Posted by: Jennifer at November 8, 2003 07:35 AM

I don't have any information on meeting somebody online, the boss threw her net over me before Al Gore invented the Internet. Five grandsons later I'm still not allowed to meet any women on the 'net.
Like any other beginning relationships there's a few things women (and guys, for that matter) must do to keep out of trouble. Get his home phone number, meet his family, see what his friends and coworkers think of him, stuff like that. It's even easier to build up a false persona over the 'net than in a single's bar. At least in a single's bar you can look for that strip of untanned skin on the third finger of his left hand.
Go for it if you want to, just watch your ass. There is also the common rule of long distance relationships...absence makes the heart grow fonder. Often of whoever's around close.

Posted by: Peter at November 8, 2003 10:42 AM

I don't see anything wrong with meeting people online. You have opened up an entire new way of meeting people you would otherwise probably never meet.

Meeting online requires writing and you can tell a LOT about a person by how they write and by what they say.

I think you get to know the person, who the person IS a lot better that way and when you do finally meet in person, you already have things to talk about, you are already familiar with each other. Not like when you meet first physically and go through those awkward moments of silence.

Society has looked down on and made jokes about those who meet others online but I think it happens a lot more than people know.

I've never met anyone from online to date, but I've met a few people online I consider friends and they have turned out to be better friends than those I met other ways. Hell, my best friend is someone I met online back in 96 in an aoHell chat room.

I say, go for it.

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