January 19, 2005

I'll Give You a Topic...

This one really only applies to bloggers who use their real names...to what extent do you censor yourself on your blog so that your grandmother/boss/high school boyfriend doesn't read something unflattering or risque?

And--theoretically--would you be interested in a collaborative blog where you could anonymously post whatever random nonsense pops into your head?

Posted by Jennifer at January 19, 2005 09:00 AM


Ooh! Ooh! One I can answer. I definitely censor myself, but only to a degree. People who read my blog include: my Dad, my siblings, a couple of co-workers, and (most scarily, whether I like it or not) the Ex. So how the h*ll am I going to rant about any of the personal stuff? One or two times I've vented online, I ran it by the people involved, because in essence, I'm not only "outing" myself. The one time I ran a post about my mom's illness past my parents but not my siblings, I got cussed out by my brother. That said, I've made it very clear that other than a few carefully placed asterisks, I am not modifying my language or political/philosophical views for anyone. They can just deal with it. I've thought seriously about doing an anonymous blog so I can be as snarky as I like about people without hurting their feelings. A group blog could be fun, as evidenced by Clearly Erroneous.

Posted by: Kris at January 19, 2005 10:57 AM

I self censor a bit but really not very much. In real life I'm comfortable talking about just about any aspect of myself but I generally don't talk about the failings or foibles of others. The same is true on my blog. I post just about anything about myself (much to the horror of my readers) but generally only amusing things about others.

I think it comes down to how I was raised. Up through my early teens I was in an environment that was very open and confrontational. In a good way. A problem with a person was discussed with that person. My later teen years were in a house where gossip was the way of things. With my early conditioning I quickly developed an absolute hatred of gossipy shit and simply refused to participate in it in any way.

Now that I'm a grown up (physically anyway, the jury is still out on mental functions) I will happily relate good stuff about anybody but I am just not going to dish dirt unless the dishee is in front of me.

Bathroom stories at work are exempt because those people are gross monkeys.

Posted by: Jim at January 19, 2005 11:07 AM

I sort of censor myself, but not that much, only when it comes to details. I'm apparently not interesting enough to be stalked online or anyone to give a rats ass, even though I use my real name.

Not like anyone will read this comment anyways... or link to my site... or .. whatever {black cloud}

Posted by: Oorgo at January 19, 2005 12:07 PM

Always tell the truth. Be objective. Don't post about feelings unless they are positive. If I do criticize a family member or friend I do it by hypertexting their name to a picture of a monkey or a turd or a politician. Nobody follows the links anyway. Which is a damn shame I might add, because usually my story is a compilation of the links and not the actual text. That's just there for me to be glib.

Posted by: Matthew Peek at January 19, 2005 01:10 PM

I don't censor myself much, nobody I know (family, friends) even know I have a blog. Heck most of my family and friends don't even know what blogs are, so I don't think I have much danger of them finding it.

I have thought about starting a blog with total annomity and just be a total bitch on it. Would like to see reactions to my inner most thoughts.

Posted by: Machelle at January 19, 2005 02:18 PM

Well I don't use my real name, but all my friends and family know my blog (not that many read it, but that's a whole other topic...). I don't think I censor much. If anything, I censor for my husbands benefit.

Posted by: texasbug at January 19, 2005 06:53 PM

I'm just not comfortable with most four letter words, so I don't really censor myself any additional amount due to parents reading than I would anyway. However, some people at work know about the blog, which means I really don't want to post anytime during work hours. So I just post evenings and lunch time only.

Posted by: Mark at January 19, 2005 08:30 PM

I use my real name, and I know my wife occasionally reads my stuff. I also know that a friend of hers from our church also reads my site. I use my real name in order to censor myself. I think, "is this something I would be embarassed having my name associated with?" If yes, it doesn't get posted. I also never blog about work. As a corporate lawyer, I can't talk about the really juicy stuff (because of ethical obligations) and I think it's just not a good idea to mix that world with my non-work world. I like to keep the two spheres clearly separated.

Posted by: JohnL at January 19, 2005 11:57 PM

I have no need to censor myself. Mainly because I'm pretty sure no one reads my blog. I'm sure most of my page hits are searches gone awry. "WTF? This isn't Michelle Malkin's blog! Frickin' Google anyway."

Posted by: David at January 23, 2005 01:20 AM

On my political site, I don't censor myself at all, but then most of my friends/family don't read it. On my personal site (www.grabaclue.com/perry) I know that several of my relatives read it, so I censor it quite a bit. Actually, I avoid the need to censor most of the time by simply avoid talking about anything too personal.

Posted by: Perry at January 23, 2005 01:38 PM